One of my college professors advised us to "learn to ignore" some behaviors in the classroom and only make a big deal out of what really mattered to us. A few years later, I was given similar advice by my children's pediatrician. "If you don't plan to enforce it, don't make the threat." I think the two men were on the same page.
Joel's post and video about awareness reminded me that some things matter a whole lot more than others. With so many things going on at the same time, it is often necessary to pick and choose your battles. It is way too frustrating to address every issue and worry about enforcing the consequences.
One strategy that worked for me in the classroom was letting a student know that I had noticed an inappropriate behavior but had chosen not to respond. Making eye contact was all it took. It's kind of like a policeman driving by and shaking his head. He ignored an infraction possibly because he had to deal with something more important but at the same time make an impact on the motorist with a simple warning.
Of course, we all know teachers that enforce every single rule and seem to get by with it. I was never one of those teachers. A relaxed atmosphere worked better for me. I think students appreciated getting an occasional break and in the long run, worked harder.
Check out the video below to see how aware you are!