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Bullying will happen in old age too...

My sister and her husband have had to put his parents in a assisted living facility.  They cannot take care of themselves anymore.  Actually, Tom can but Carol can't and he resented having to take care of her.  After all, she was the wife and she was supposed to take care of him.

He was a bully as a child.  He bullied the servants. (must be nice to even have servants)  However, he also bullied his wife most of her life.  Now, he is angry because she had a stroke and she has diabetes and can't take care of herself.  She is like a 5 year-old.  He refused to get up in the morning and check her blood or give her the needed medications.  Hence, the assisted living facility.

Now, he has "servants" again to bully.  And he does.  He makes demands.  He is unreasonable and an SOB.  The nursing facility called my brother-in-law and told them to find a new place to put them.  They will not accept that kind of treatment. 

Yes, he has been told and warned about his behavior.  However, he feels that is what servants are for.  He is paying them after all.

The doctor has said that he has reverted back to his childhood where bullying the help was acceptable.  It is no longer acceptable and he is being thrown out of his facility.  Now my brother-in-law and sister have to start the search all over again. 

This is a huge problem.  If children are allowed to bully when young, they are going to revert to it when they are old too.  We really need to show children and their parents that this in not acceptable behavior at any time.  We need the administration to set decent policies and follow through with them no matter what.

If the parents want to sue the schools, let them and pray they lose and learn a lesson.  I am tired of giving in to parents because they can't do their job and teach their children manners and hold them accountable for their behavior.

Once a bully...always a bully.  We have to stop the cycle now.

Published Thursday, July 03, 2008 1:22 PM by MysteryTeacher
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Maria said:

Being around children and seeing certain ones bully their classmates breaks my heart.  I have seen families where the mother or father seemed harsh or like a bully and that cycle carries over into their children and unless it is stopped it will carry over into the children's children.  There is so much pressure on young people these days and so many face insecurities that they take out on others.  Family life is such a major part of the problem.  Teachers need to make their classroom a nurturing environment and have ZERO tolerence for bullies.  In my opinion, people expect teachers to not only carry the teaching responsibilities but also the parenting responsibilites.  

July 8, 2008 2:34 PM
 

alisa said:

I feel the same way, if a child gets away with bullying at a young age, he/she will grow to continue the action when they are older. It is so sad to see what kids will do to each other, and it is important for parents to teach their children the manners they need in order to respect others, but it's also, like you mentioned, important for teachers to reinforce the rules and regulations within the classroom and to be alert so that this type behavior is not repeated throughout the years as the child grows and becomes mature. Sometimes teachers do end up with more responsibility than they can handle with such a big group within a class, so it is important for parents to teach their kids the manners that is very important for them to know.

July 15, 2008 5:48 PM

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I am a wild, whacky, weird, wonderful woman and teacher. I am venturing into a previous life by teaching ELL this fall. I use to teach ESL years ago. I am excited, empowered, and employed. I love life.

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