I am sorry you are going through such an uncertain time.
In the ECE profession what you used would be considered physical
violence. You purposely placed your hands on and forced a child to move
from a specific spot without his/her consent.
When disciplining our students we must remember why we are disciplining. Every moment should be a learning opportunity.
Why did you need the child to move?
Could the situation been handled differently?
Could you have moved closer to the child? Instead of he/she sitting next to you, could you have sat next to him?
As a "lead" teacher we set the tone for the classroom. Your assistant probably wasn't reprimanded because you are the one who should be responsible for her actions while in your classroom.
Student, mom, wife